Research
How we built the 28-day topics
Get to Know You Mode is inspired by relationship research on curiosity, reciprocal disclosure, and real-life relationship domains. Found is not affiliated with any branded program.
Build a living map of each other
The early days focus on everyday details so you learn what makes your partner feel understood and cared for.
We also design for small bids for connection so you notice how each person likes to reach out and be met.
Go deeper through reciprocal, paced disclosure
Questions are structured so both people answer before revealing, keeping the exchange balanced.
Depth increases in steps, which helps trust grow without forcing vulnerability too fast.
Cover the real-life domains that predict stress
Communication, conflict, finances, intimacy, family, roles, beliefs, and leisure all show up in the sequence.
That mix keeps the track practical and grounded in real relationship outcomes.
Why this 28-day sequence works in a dating app
- Pacing creates safety: closeness grows when disclosure is gradual and mutual.
- The sequence builds friendship first before it moves into logistics or conflict.
- It addresses predictable friction points like money, intimacy, family, and expectations.
- Daily questions and answer-to-reveal mechanics match patterns people already understand.
Sample days from the 28-day track
The Pact and the Pace
Goal of the day: Agree on how you want these 28 days to feel and how you'll show up for each other.
Open-ended questions
- What helps you feel comfortable opening up with someone new?
- If we have a great conversation day, what usually made it great?
- What would make this 28-day mode feel worth it for you?
Opt-in deeper question
What is one thing you are a little nervous to get wrong in dating, and what would help you feel safer?
Why this matters: Shared expectations plus balanced participation reduce guesswork, and the answer-before-reveal pattern keeps engagement high.
Little Joys and Everyday Favorites
Goal of the day: Start building a map of the small things that make each other feel good.
Open-ended questions
- What is a small thing that reliably improves your mood?
- What is your go-to comfort routine after a long day?
- What is a low-key date you would genuinely enjoy this month?
Opt-in deeper question
What is an everyday stressor that people often underestimate for you?
Why this matters: Curiosity about everyday details compounds into felt care, and saved preferences create easy wins later.